Have you ever asked yourself that question? I found that when I was in fear and resistant to change, I’d freeze. It’s difficult to see past the problem. We get in our own way. It’s easy to see how others are in their own way but not easy to see in our own lives. For me to get the courage to change a situation I need to get tired of it. There is only so much complaining and then it’s change it or shut up. Sometimes I stay in something too long because I want to do whatever it takes to make it work. This leads to feeling drained and burned out especially when you don’t have control of the person or issue.
The Serenity Prayer helps me when I get to this crossroad in life. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” The last four years were difficult as I moved 5 times, went through a separation then divorce, took a full-time position with my prior employer, and bought a home. There were other things that were difficult and challenging but those were the major life events. I was tired of not having safety and stability. Once I was ready to make the difficult choices the universe guided me through it all.
It takes difficult self-reflection to see our own patterns. I still attracted certain people in my life due to things I had not entirely worked out or took responsibility for in my participation. My belief is that people, relationships, and experiences are to teach me something. When I look at it that way, I can walk away wishing them well in my heart but also not allowing them in my life or certain circumstances a small access to me. I also realize that I may be that to others and they feel a need to walk away.
We are never really stuck because I find that when ready miracles come into my life. It’s only difficult until it’s easy which really is just a shift or decision within me.
It takes a lot of energy being stuck because there is internal conflict. I’ll be 56 next month and still rediscovering and learning how to love myself more. Once my internal world changed my external world changed. It’s like night and day from a year ago. If you are not happy where you are that can all change when you area ready to get unstuck.