When You’re Tired of Being Tired

Have you ever asked yourself that question? Any time I’ve been afraid or resistant to change, I freeze. It’s like my brain throws up a “Do Not Enter” sign and suddenly I can’t see past the problem. We all get in our own way at times. It’s funny—spotting how other people are blocking themselves is easy. Catching ourselves doing the exact same thing? Not so much.

For me, I don’t usually make a change until I’m completely exhausted by the situation. I’ll complain, reflect, try to make it work… and then eventually hit that moment of, “Okay, either change it or stop talking about it.” I tend to stay in things longer than I should because I want to give it every chance to succeed. But that comes with a cost—drain, burnout, and the harsh reminder that I can’t control other people or certain circumstances.

One thing that has helped me at these crossroads is the Serenity Prayer:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

The last four years pushed me to lean on those words more than ever. I moved five times, went through a separation and divorce, took a full-time position with my previous employer, and bought a home. A few other challenges sprinkled themselves in too. I was tired of instability. Once I finally made the hard decisions, it felt like the universe carried me through every step.

Self-reflection isn’t exactly a cozy activity, but it’s where breakthroughs happen. I realized I was still attracting certain types of people because there were things in me I hadn’t fully healed or taken responsibility for. I believe every person, relationship, and experience teaches me something. That mindset lets me walk away wishing people well, while also keeping my boundaries strong. And honestly, I know I’ve been that lesson for others too.

Here’s what I’ve learned: We’re never truly stuck. When we’re ready—really ready—miracles tend to show up. What felt impossible suddenly becomes simple because something inside us shifts.

Being stuck takes more energy than moving forward. That internal tug-of-war is exhausting. I’ll be 56 next month, and I’m still rediscovering myself, still learning how to love myself better. But the moment my inner world changed, my outer world followed. The difference between last year and now is like night and day.

If you’re not happy where you are, that can change the moment you are ready to get unstuck.

And trust me—when you decide to move, life moves with you.