Every day is a new day to think, act, and respond differently. In 1982, I was 14 years old when Prince came out with the song “1999.” Back then, 1999 seemed so far away. Before I knew it, we were blasting the song at a 1998 New Year’s Eve party thinking it’s finally here. Well that was 20 years ago. I’m a much different person in many ways, and still the same in others. Now that I’m in the last half of my life I’m starting to think about the kind of person I want to be in my older years.
As we age, it becomes increasingly more difficult to change things about ourselves. After all it takes a lot of energy and perseverance to accomplish goals or make changes. As with anything in life, we focus our energy on things we find of importance. For me, it’s important to take care of my body and emotional well-being. Spending time around older people I can see how important both of these are. I used to think people became cranky as they aged but now I think it’s cranky people that become more cranky as they age. Sure there are aches and pains that could damper our mood or personality, but I don’t believe it changes someone entirely. The people that are bitter and angry in old age haven’t done the work to let go of the things that contributed to their personality and moods. Then its compounded with age related physical challenges and the fear of death.
Always walk through life as if you have something new to learn, and you will. – Vernon Howard
Recently, Dr. Wilson has been referring to nutritional balancing as development science because the program goes well beyond nutrition. The longer you do the program the more you are able to experience how it works on a very deep level, with both the human and spiritual aspect. This past year or so, I’ve been facing how my ways to survive in the world were not working anymore and I had to look at how it affects me and others. Getting married last year has definitely brought up a lot of issues I have had with men and relationships. I’ve had very deep abandonment fears that I have been able to work through. I’m also learning to set boundaries in my relationships. I always thought people needing me meant they loved me. This created a lot of codependent relationships that I later resented because I felt taken advantage of. Boundaries are a way of loving me and others at the same time.
I’m very excited to continue building on these things I have been working through and facing the past year. I want to go into my golden years light and carefree. That means to continue forgiving, loving, having healthy boundaries, and working through my fears and traumas. I’d like to aspire to be like Betty White who turned 97 this year and is still so full of life and laughter.
Every minute of every new day is an opportunity to be better than the minute or day before. True healing takes place when we stop playing the victim of our story and start being the creator. You and you alone have the power to do and be different. Wanting others to love us unconditionally when we are not doing the same is what is wrong in our relationships. My hope for everyone is that you are able to love yourself deeply and let go of past hurts. I believe this is where true freedom is.